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Try Again Kid: Resources for Resilient Parenting

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Try Again Kid: Resources for Resilient Parenting

A Spiritual Journey to Ordinary-ness

Today was my son's first day of third grade. It's a big year for his development. He's set to become more independent- doing more chores, paying attention to his own needs, being responsible for his commitments and plans. As a parent who is constantly self-evaluating my guidance, I'm hyper critical of my own helicopter-like moments. This is when I get in the way of both his successes and his failures. If he feels successful, I try not to dole out a bucket of praise. And when he fails, I try not to catch his tears.

He's got to learn to fail.

When I've set up my PinBox 3000 Art-Cade, you'd be surprised how many times I've heard kids try it for the first time, launch their first marble, miss the flipper button, watch the ball drain out, and then say, "I'm terrible at this". All within the first 1.5 seconds.

My response is: "If you had though that when you were a baby, you'd still be crawling around on all fours." It's a bit harsh, but hidden in the comeback is a challenge. Suck it up and try again.

Failure is essential to growth. So try again.

Here are two books that I'm recommending to all parents who want to raise independent kids who aren't afraid to fail fast.

Educators and designers who want to have a lens of empathy when guiding kids through differing levels of success and failure.

The Self-Esteem Trap by Polly Young-Eisendrath, Ph.D, is the kind of book that could be the go-to parenting guide for this generation of parents. We GenXers should not blame ourselves for all the wondering and wandering about we did before we had kids. Some of us (white kids) were raised in environments of praise, so naturally praise our kids, and in doing that, we tend to go overboard, creating an inflated ego where kids begin to feel they can do no wrong and are entitled to "anything they can dream". (possibly at the expense of others) Well, NEWS FLASH- It Ain't Like That.

The right amount of failure is needed to help kids understand....

  1. The world does not revolve around them
  2. They should get back up and show some grit
  3. They can figure out many of thier own problems
  4. Being Ordinary is OK

That last one hit me like a ton of bricks.

Having been raised in the era of "if you can dream it..." we've forgotten as a culture that helping others, being a reliable friend, and showing kindness are admirable and worthy goals in of themselves. Giving your kids permission to fail, to be ordinary, to show kindness, to show emotion- these are key to developing independent humans, who will hopefully stop handing you thier garbage or their dirty laundry, both literally and emotionally.

"Failures and mishaps teach us about ourselves and about our world-how others see us and what we can expect."

-from The Self-Esteem Trap

Designed for Success (and Failure)

Richard Dattner's adventure playground in Central Park NYC

The Design of Childhood: How the Material World Shapes Independent Kids by Alexandra Lange employs each chapter to look at elements of the not-so-designed-for-kids modernity.

Chapter one- "Blocks"- travels from unit blocks to Legos to cardboard boxes to Minecraft, Lange brings her analysis to what makes good design for developmental growth. Failure comes into focus here, just as much as success. The child's tactile engagement of the world via design influences the growth of children in ways that are hard to comprehend. This book threads a historical dialogue that brings us to our present design tastes.

It gave me a lot of ideas about making with my kids.

In the chapter titled "Playground", I was inspired to read about the movement for "Adventure Playgrounds" where kids can experiment with a variety of large-scale materials and real tools to build and design a world of their own without protecting them from elements of bodily risk. Just as the abandoned city lot used to serve as playground, we parents can learn to step away from the kids and let risk-taking come to their own conclusions. If you give your kid a pile of cardboard, do you think you'd be able to not jump in and instruct them?

Its More than Just a Scratch

Not getting in the way of your child's failures doesn't mean that you shouldn't protect them from harm, of course not. But what both books, seem to speak of is an empathetic view of failure that resonates with the growth of the child. This is in contrast to inoculating the child against the pains and groans of daily life.  

We have a lot to learn from this. Let's not be too hard on ourselves either.

Happy parenting!

Supportive Ways to Speak to your Child

"Tell me what is wrong."

"You can use a normal voice (instead of a sad one) so I can understand you better."

"Do you think you could try again, or do you need a break?"

"I think you are very close to solving this problem."

"It hurts to fall, but I think you'd rather try again than quit, right?"

 

The PinBox 3000 is an open-platform where kids can design their own rules.

We are building a movement of makers, creative thinkers, and game designers and it all starts with bending cardboard.

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  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

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  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    My name’s Eric and I just came across your website – pinbox3000.com – in the search results.

    Here’s what that means to me…

    Your SEO’s working.

    You’re getting eyeballs – mine at least.

    Your content’s pretty good, wouldn’t change a thing.

    BUT…

    Eyeballs don’t pay the bills.

    CUSTOMERS do.

    And studies show that 7 out of 10 visitors to a site like pinbox3000.com will drop by, take a gander, and then head for the hills without doing anything else.

    It’s like they never were even there.

    You can fix this.

    You can make it super-simple for them to raise their hand, say, “okay, let’s talk” without requiring them to even pull their cell phone from their pocket… thanks to Talk With Web Visitor.

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that sits on your site, ready and waiting to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It lets you know immediately – so you can talk to that lead immediately… without delay… BEFORE they head for those hills.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    Now it’s also true that when reaching out to hot leads, you MUST act fast – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus 30 minutes later is huge – like 100 times better!

    That’s what makes our new SMS Text With Lead feature so powerful… you’ve got their phone number, so now you can start a text message (SMS) conversation with them… so even if they don’t take you up on your offer right away, you continue to text them new offers, new content, and new reasons to do business with you.

    This could change everything for you and your business.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to learn more about everything Talk With Web Visitor can do and start turing eyeballs into money.

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – you could be converting up to 100x more leads immediately!
    It even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    Paying customers are out there waiting.
    Starting connecting today by CLICKING HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://jumboleadmagnet.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, my name’s Eric and for just a second, imagine this…

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    - They hang out for a minute to check it out. “I’m interested… but… maybe…”

    - And then they hit the back button and check out the other search results instead.

    - Bottom line – you got an eyeball, but nothing else to show for it.

    - There they go.

    This isn’t really your fault – it happens a LOT – studies show 7 out of 10 visitors to any site disappear without leaving a trace.

    But you CAN fix that.

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It lets you know right then and there – enabling you to call that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    Time is money when it comes to connecting with leads – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus 30 minutes later can be huge – like 100 times better!

    Plus, now that you have their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation… so even if you don’t close a deal then, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Strong stuff.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://jumboleadmagnet.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, this is Eric and I ran across pinbox3000.com a few minutes ago.

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    By that I mean, when someone like me finds your website – either through Search or just bouncing around – what happens next? Do you get a lot of leads from your site, or at least enough to make you happy?

    Honestly, most business websites fall a bit short when it comes to generating paying customers. Studies show that 70% of a site’s visitors disappear and are gone forever after just a moment.

    Here’s an idea…

    How about making it really EASY for every visitor who shows up to get a personal phone call you as soon as they hit your site…

    You can –

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you the moment they let you know they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    You’ll be amazed – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour or more later could increase your results 100-fold.

    It gets even better… once you’ve captured their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation.

    That way, even if you don’t close a deal right away, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Pretty sweet – AND effective.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithwebtraffic.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, this is Eric and I ran across pinbox3000.com a few minutes ago.

    Looks great… but now what?

    By that I mean, when someone like me finds your website – either through Search or just bouncing around – what happens next? Do you get a lot of leads from your site, or at least enough to make you happy?

    Honestly, most business websites fall a bit short when it comes to generating paying customers. Studies show that 70% of a site’s visitors disappear and are gone forever after just a moment.

    Here’s an idea…

    How about making it really EASY for every visitor who shows up to get a personal phone call you as soon as they hit your site…

    You can –

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you the moment they let you know they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    You’ll be amazed – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour or more later could increase your results 100-fold.

    It gets even better… once you’ve captured their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation.

    That way, even if you don’t close a deal right away, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Pretty sweet – AND effective.

    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE https://jumboleadmagnet.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://jumboleadmagnet.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, my name’s Eric and for just a second, imagine this…

    - Someone does a search and winds up at pinbox3000.com.

    - They hang out for a minute to check it out. “I’m interested… but… maybe…”

    - And then they hit the back button and check out the other search results instead.

    - Bottom line – you got an eyeball, but nothing else to show for it.

    - There they go.

    This isn’t really your fault – it happens a LOT – studies show 7 out of 10 visitors to any site disappear without leaving a trace.

    But you CAN fix that.

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It lets you know right then and there – enabling you to call that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    Time is money when it comes to connecting with leads – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus 30 minutes later can be huge – like 100 times better!

    Plus, now that you have their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation… so even if you don’t close a deal then, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Strong stuff.

    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://jumboleadmagnet.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://jumboleadmagnet.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, my name’s Eric and for just a second, imagine this…

    - Someone does a search and winds up at pinbox3000.com.

    - They hang out for a minute to check it out. “I’m interested… but… maybe…”

    - And then they hit the back button and check out the other search results instead.

    - Bottom line – you got an eyeball, but nothing else to show for it.

    - There they go.

    This isn’t really your fault – it happens a LOT – studies show 7 out of 10 visitors to any site disappear without leaving a trace.

    But you CAN fix that.

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It lets you know right then and there – enabling you to call that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    Time is money when it comes to connecting with leads – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus 30 minutes later can be huge – like 100 times better!

    Plus, now that you have their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation… so even if you don’t close a deal then, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Strong stuff.

    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE http://talkwithwebtraffic.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithwebtraffic.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

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    Eric Jones

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    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
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  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hello, my name’s Eric and I just ran across your website at pinbox3000.com…

    I found it after a quick search, so your SEO’s working out…

    Content looks pretty good…

    One thing’s missing though…

    A QUICK, EASY way to connect with you NOW.

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    I have the solution:

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    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithwebvisitors.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

  • Eric Jones
    Eric Jones

    Hey, this is Eric and I ran across pinbox3000.com a few minutes ago.

    Looks great… but now what?

    By that I mean, when someone like me finds your website – either through Search or just bouncing around – what happens next? Do you get a lot of leads from your site, or at least enough to make you happy?

    Honestly, most business websites fall a bit short when it comes to generating paying customers. Studies show that 70% of a site’s visitors disappear and are gone forever after just a moment.

    Here’s an idea…

    How about making it really EASY for every visitor who shows up to get a personal phone call you as soon as they hit your site…

    You can –

    Talk With Web Visitor is a software widget that’s works on your site, ready to capture any visitor’s Name, Email address and Phone Number. It signals you the moment they let you know they’re interested – so that you can talk to that lead while they’re literally looking over your site.

    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to try out a Live Demo with Talk With Web Visitor now to see exactly how it works.

    You’ll be amazed – the difference between contacting someone within 5 minutes versus a half-hour or more later could increase your results 100-fold.

    It gets even better… once you’ve captured their phone number, with our new SMS Text With Lead feature, you can automatically start a text (SMS) conversation.

    That way, even if you don’t close a deal right away, you can follow up with text messages for new offers, content links, even just “how you doing?” notes to build a relationship.

    Pretty sweet – AND effective.

    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to discover what Talk With Web Visitor can do for your business.

    You could be converting up to 100X more leads today!

    Eric
    PS: Talk With Web Visitor offers a FREE 14 days trial – and it even includes International Long Distance Calling.
    You have customers waiting to talk with you right now… don’t keep them waiting.
    CLICK HERE https://talkwithwebvisitors.com to try Talk With Web Visitor now.

    If you’d like to unsubscribe click here http://talkwithwebvisitors.com/unsubscribe.aspx?d=pinbox3000.com

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